I met someone in India who
still hadn't tried Indian food. He was a medical student from the US who'd taken the summer to travel through India. Sadly, (I thought,) though, his parents had worried so much about him travelling on his own that they'd booked him into four or five star hotels at every stop,
and arranged for a jeep with tinted windows to take him from place to place. As a result, even though he'd been in India for a few weeks by the time I met him, he still hadn't had a single Indian meal. In every place, he'd just been eating Western food in his hotel. I know that sometimes your surroundings can take a little getting used to when you go to a new place, but, for me, part of the joy of travelling is trying new things and coming to love them, even if you find them unusual when you first arrive. I couldn't help but feel that he was really missing out.
Many years ago we had some friends from Trinidad. They prepared dinner for us one night that was, at the time, very delicious and heavy on the curry. However, I became ill that night and remained that way for the whole next day. Ever since then, I have not touched a thing containing curry. Tell me what is good to start with knowing how I feel about curry.
While Jnorth is right about there being many elements in a curry, it's certainly possible to have a bad reaction to 'spicy' spice, and it can be horrible - poor you! I'm not surprised that you've avoided it since. Not all curry is spicy, though. There are many different sorts, with many different levels of heat, from raging right down to none at all. When you arrive, just ask for advice in the places where you go to eat. People are used to tourists not being able to cope with the same levels of spice, and I've never come across anyone who wasn't happy to give you advice on what is or is not spicy. Often something like a tandoori dish or a butter dish will be less spicy. If you feel like you're being hemmed in by having only a few choices after you've been there for a while (although there is a HUGE range of Indian dishes, so you should have lots of choice), remember that your taste buds and body will get used to the spice gradually as you're there. Try building up your spice levels little by little as you travel, if you want to taste some different things. Whether or not you're testing your spice limits, though, good general advice is to stay away from shaped meat, and from things like fresh salad that have been washed in tap water. Those are easy ways to get sick.